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I relate to two things here very much - having an idea for a book that would implode your algorithms (mine is wanting to do a dive on paraphilias & psychology of sexuality & violence) and also into the quiet consumption of this darker media. I read a lot of the red pill stuff on Twitter, because I like to study the internet sociology of how people are navigating & processing intimate relationships. This comes up on Reddit advice forums too, it trickles in when someone asks “should this be a dealbreaker?” and so on. I like to read the think pieces on what it means to be a woman, like to know if I’m “doing it right” according to these men. Sometimes I find amusement in the hypocrisy and the dead end logic. For example, single mothers are all failures to them, no matter the circumstances. The children of these mothers are disadvantaged and doomed. At the same time, any man willing to be a stepfather is also a simp. So they want two-parent families but the only options are the bio parents or … idk what’s left as an option beyond like maybe the mother & child shouldn’t bother being alive anymore, I guess? Like there’s no winning because the logic is circular and empty and not rooted in reality. I think so much about that discrepancy, between what my romantic life should look like as dictated by these angry men vs what my lived experiences are and how I’m doing fine. There’s so much to consume and consider and I find it all so fascinating. So anyway, thank you for sharing this. Like some others, I’ll be looking into Valley of the Dolls!

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Oh wow this was so interesting… i would love to see whet you write for your dissertation/book also !!! You offer such a uniquely humanising perspective and would love to read more about your work on this topic…! Thank you for sharing!

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aww thank you for reading! I’m honored!! I’m going to be giving an update on my book soon so stay tuned 📺

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that ending was SO powerful. can’t wait to watch / read valley of the dolls for the first time because of this piece!

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I feel like I’m fulfilling my life’s purpose by turning more people on to Valley of the Dolls!! thank u for reading 🥹✨🖤💊

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Privilege to read this. Thank you. I think this is the sort of writing which a lot of us are looking for and quite badly needing. It's a recognisable but shocking history of ourselves and our cultures.

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seriously honored 🖤✨💊 thank you!!!

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Absolutely LOVED. I was traveling all last week and waited to read it in the comfort of my own bedroom, as it’s meant to be read. Truly excellent Rachel, and honestly proof that you absolutely must finish your book.

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Omg ok FOR YOU, Sara! Only for you will I finish this book!!!

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“Maybe they were afraid for me, knowing how quickly our algorithms can spin us alternate versions of reality that look so very appealing.” Real and true

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in the moment I was like, why don’t they like my idea 🥲

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the line "And I think to myself, my grandmother would never click on a video with the title “Sigma Male Rejects 304.” She would not have any idea what any of those words mean." was so incredible.

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thank you!!! definitely one of my fave moments 🖤✨

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I like this for so many reasons (and I will be back to say why). You should definitely keep writing serious content; everybody is going to say so. : )

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Excellent post. Give me a lot to think about.

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oh wow thank u for reading 🥹✨💊🖤

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Enjoyed reading this a lot and look forward to reading more. Thanks!

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thank you so much for reading!! ✨💊🫶🏻

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This was very interesting and I hope it gets restacked! Very few people are willing and able to dig into this stuff.

I would like you to write two treatises, one about the girls’ bedrooms and one about the boys’, if you have the stamina. You could sell them in a box set.

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I was nervous to put this out for sure because that whole side of the internet feels so toxic! I appreciate you taking the time to read 🖤✨ and yes haha I’ll have to write two books now 💀🥲🎢

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Loved reading this, thank you Rachel!!

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thank u for reading Sarina 🥹🖤

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I’m blown away. Internet Bedroom comes back SWINGIN

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🥹✨🫶🏻 you’re the best Vero!!!

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Impressive. Lots of metaphors and an almost nihilistic world view wrapped up with a complicated bow.

I'm looking forward to more.

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thank you so much for reading <3

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this was incredible.

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oh wow I’m honored. I was so nervous to put this out. thank u for reading <3

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