As a newly 40 year old woman attempting to “get back out there” after almost a year of singledom I was not anticipating, one of my non-negotiables/MEGA red flags is a man without a bed frame (amongst other things of course). Suffice to say, this amazing essay is another reason why I re-subscribed for another year of Internet Bedroom. Love you and your beautiful mind Rachel ❤️
In high school, my bedroom was my escape. My music studio that helped me avoid interactions I didn’t want to have with my mom.
As I got older and could control when I came and went, my room became more of a place I passed through. I’d throw my clothes and bag down and keep it moving.
Sharing a living space with my wife has definitely helped lol, but I feel like our room is still a place to pass through and drop stuff in.
Reminds me of what you were saying about our rooms shaping around our lives, a product of our living. This was a fascinating read 👏🏽
I loooove this Alex yes!! my room in high school was a dump and also my escape — it kind of looked like the hikikomori bedrooms tbh. being married is wild too because you’re like merging two different lives and two different approaches to using space for sure!!
P.s. I consume a heavy drip of “girl” creative room/studio setups in an effort to get neater more cozy aesthetic setups that spark joy but somehow can’t balance that past the 90s punk/grunge/goth other end of the spectrum. Past and present collide in the face of doomed impending future as I try to draw Hello Kitty Skulls.
This resonates with me and hits home a bit existentially as our bedroom is currently in the basement amongst all “my stuff”. I even recorded YouTube vids trying to navigate it esp. in response to grief.
I enjoyed this very much and can’t wait for your upcoming book! 🩷
ahhh I’m so glad! thanks for all your support Kristina 💞✨
As a newly 40 year old woman attempting to “get back out there” after almost a year of singledom I was not anticipating, one of my non-negotiables/MEGA red flags is a man without a bed frame (amongst other things of course). Suffice to say, this amazing essay is another reason why I re-subscribed for another year of Internet Bedroom. Love you and your beautiful mind Rachel ❤️
saraaaaa you’re gonna make me cry 🥹🥲 I so appreciate you and your support! we need to hang out irl one of these days too. 2025 goals!
Absolute 2025 goal! ❤️
In high school, my bedroom was my escape. My music studio that helped me avoid interactions I didn’t want to have with my mom.
As I got older and could control when I came and went, my room became more of a place I passed through. I’d throw my clothes and bag down and keep it moving.
Sharing a living space with my wife has definitely helped lol, but I feel like our room is still a place to pass through and drop stuff in.
Reminds me of what you were saying about our rooms shaping around our lives, a product of our living. This was a fascinating read 👏🏽
I loooove this Alex yes!! my room in high school was a dump and also my escape — it kind of looked like the hikikomori bedrooms tbh. being married is wild too because you’re like merging two different lives and two different approaches to using space for sure!!
P.s. I consume a heavy drip of “girl” creative room/studio setups in an effort to get neater more cozy aesthetic setups that spark joy but somehow can’t balance that past the 90s punk/grunge/goth other end of the spectrum. Past and present collide in the face of doomed impending future as I try to draw Hello Kitty Skulls.
I do love imagining you drawing hello kitty skulls JM!!
This resonates with me and hits home a bit existentially as our bedroom is currently in the basement amongst all “my stuff”. I even recorded YouTube vids trying to navigate it esp. in response to grief.